研究生英语阅读教程(基础级2版)课文13及其翻译..doc

Laws (Principle) of Lasting Love By Paul Pearsail headmaster: n.; principal (a. n.), president/ dean [1] During my 25 years as a marital therapist (consultant), I have seen hundreds of people disappointed over (about) unfulfilling (unsuccessful) relationships (marriage). I have seen passion turn to (become) poison. I have grieved with patients for the love they lost or never found. (bare infinitive/ Love is blind) [2] We seemed to love so much (deeply), but now its gone, one woman lamented to me. Why do I feel so lonely every night even when (even though) he is right there beside me? Why cant marriage be more than this? [3] It can (be colorful/ rich). I was once invited to the 60th anniversary celebration of a remarkable (worth mentioning) couple. I asked the husband, Peter, if he ever felt lonely and wondered where the love between him and Lita had gone. Peter laughed and said, If you wonder where your love went, you forgot that you are the one who makes (cultivate/ develop) it. Love is not out there (waiting for you); its in here between Lita and me. [4] I know we can love deeply, tenderly and lastingly (forever). I have seen such love, and I have felt such love myself. Here are the laws (keys) I have discovered for such lasting and loving relationships: [5] Put time (invest) where love is. A fulfilling (successful) marriage begins when two people make time together their No. 1 priority. If we hope to find (true) love, we must first find (spare, vt.) time for loving. [6] Unfortunately (unluckily), current (present) psychology rests on (based on) the model of the independent ego. To make a lasting marriage we have to overcome self-centeredness (selfishness). We must go beyond what psychologist Abraham Maslow called self-actualization to us-actualization. We have to learn to put time where love is. [7] Many couples have experienced a tragic moment that taught them to value the time together. One husband related (said) how he sat trapped in his car after a cras